Such good questions. I think the short answer is yes - it is possible to love someone even when your values don’t align. Love, as a feeling, can be sincere and deep, but it doesn’t always mean you’re aligned enough to do life together in a healthy, sustainable way.
That’s part of what makes relationships complex - you can genuinely care for someone, even feel deeply connected, and still find yourselves clashing in the places that matter most: how you handle conflict, what you believe about faith, family, future, boundaries, money, etc. That’s where the difference between love and compatibility really shows.
As for the second question - the difference between love and physical/mental attraction:
- Attraction is what pulls you in. It’s that spark, chemistry, magnetism - physical or intellectual.
- Love, when it's mature, is what commits. It chooses, shows up, sacrifices, adapts, and grows. Love carries responsibility, attraction doesn’t.
Attraction might bring you together. But love is what stays when the novelty fades. And even then, it needs more than just emotion - it needs agreement, vision, and mutual growth.
So yes, we can love someone, and still have to let go.
Because love matters. But building a life together takes more than love.
Finally, refreshing to meet someone who thinks of this like me
That’s amazing to hear 🙇🏽♂️
Does this mean that it is possible to love someone even when when both parties' value don't align?
Also, what's the difference between love and physical/mental attraction?
Such good questions. I think the short answer is yes - it is possible to love someone even when your values don’t align. Love, as a feeling, can be sincere and deep, but it doesn’t always mean you’re aligned enough to do life together in a healthy, sustainable way.
That’s part of what makes relationships complex - you can genuinely care for someone, even feel deeply connected, and still find yourselves clashing in the places that matter most: how you handle conflict, what you believe about faith, family, future, boundaries, money, etc. That’s where the difference between love and compatibility really shows.
As for the second question - the difference between love and physical/mental attraction:
- Attraction is what pulls you in. It’s that spark, chemistry, magnetism - physical or intellectual.
- Love, when it's mature, is what commits. It chooses, shows up, sacrifices, adapts, and grows. Love carries responsibility, attraction doesn’t.
Attraction might bring you together. But love is what stays when the novelty fades. And even then, it needs more than just emotion - it needs agreement, vision, and mutual growth.
So yes, we can love someone, and still have to let go.
Because love matters. But building a life together takes more than love.
Thank you so much.
This has got me thinking.
😁😁