The ‘Let Them’ Theory
Because not everything needs your intervention.
There’s a theory - simple, a little savage, but quietly revolutionary:
Let them.
If they wanted to call, they would.
If they wanted to show up, they would.
If they wanted to understand you, value you, treat you with care -
They would.
And if they don’t?
Let them.
Let them misunderstand you.
Let them walk away.
Let them make their passive-aggressive comments.
Let them repost quotes about “people changing” while subtweeting your peace.
Let them.
It sounds flippant, but it’s not apathy - it’s emotional clarity.
It’s finally letting go of the exhausting belief that you need to explain, correct, convince, or manage someone else’s perception of you.
You don’t.
You’re allowed to release what you can’t control.
The “Let Them” theory isn’t about withdrawal, but wisdom. It’s not giving up. It’s stopping the unnecessary performance. You’re not auditioning for anyone’s affection. You’re not editing yourself into someone else’s ideal.
You’re simply observing:
They chose this. And I choose to not chase what isn’t choosing me back.
It doesn’t mean you stop loving people. It means you stop leaking energy trying to hold what isn’t yours to carry.
Because real peace?
Isn’t always found in fixing.
Sometimes it’s in freeing.
So next time you feel the urge to over-explain your heart, to justify your boundary, to beg someone to meet you halfway, pause. Breathe.
And maybe… just let them.