Today, I have the tremendous honour of standing by my very good friend's side as he embarks on an incredible journey - marriage. The venue shortly will be abuzz with the laughter and joy of friends and family, their happiness mirroring my own. My friend and his bride-to-be are in their twenties, just like many of us here. Their choice to marry at this age has sparked many a conversation, inspired profound reflections, and even drawn a few raised eyebrows. In honor of their special day, I'm dedicating this article to all the twentysomethings out there who might be considering taking the same step.
Why should you get married in your twenties, if it feels right for you? Here are the reasons that resonate with me, having watched my friend and his beloved journey to this beautiful moment.
There's something magical about the twenties. It's an age full of vigor, exploration, and significant life decisions. Among the major choices you make during this time, one stands out as particularly life-altering - the decision to marry. While the average age for marriage has been gradually shifting upwards, there's a compelling case for tying the knot in your twenties. Here's why.
Shared Growth and Evolution
The twenties is a time of transformation. As you navigate your career, further your education, or explore the world, your personal growth during this time is exponential. When you choose to get married in your twenties, you and your partner get to grow and evolve together. You form your identities in tandem, shaping your values, perspectives, and life choices as a team. This shared evolution can foster a strong bond and mutual understanding that lasts a lifetime.
Building Financial Stability Together
Marrying young allows you to face and overcome financial challenges together. This might seem counter-intuitive, considering the twenties is typically a time of financial uncertainty. But tackling financial hurdles together can create a solid foundation for your shared future. You learn to budget, save, invest, and even fail together, equipping you with invaluable financial skills and understanding of each other's financial habits.
Embracing Flexibility
When you're in your twenties, you generally have more flexibility. Without the high-level job responsibilities or the parental duties that might come later, you're more able to adapt to each other's needs, careers, or dreams. This flexibility can allow you to relocate for each other's job opportunities, pursue further education, or even take the plunge into entrepreneurship.
The Joy of Parenthood
If you plan to have children, getting married in your twenties gives you the benefit of youth. Young parents typically have higher energy levels to keep up with the demands of raising children. You'll also have more years to enjoy your children and potentially even your grandchildren.
Growing Old Together
Marrying in your twenties means more years spent with your partner. It's more time to create memories, navigate life's ups and downs together, and simply enjoy each other's company.
Of course, it's important to note that marrying young isn't for everyone. It requires maturity, commitment, and the willingness to grow together. Not everyone in their twenties will feel ready for this step, and that's okay. It's not about rushing into marriage; it's about recognizing that, if you've found the right person and feel emotionally ready, there are unique benefits to marrying young.
Your twenties are a beautiful, transformative period. If you're ready, and if you've found someone who you want to spend your life with, getting married during this time can be an enriching and joyful experience. So don't shy away from the prospect - embrace the adventure that comes with love, commitment, and a shared journey through life.
Love this. I am all for marrying young. Started courting at 23 married at 25. I would have married at 21 or earlier if I could have! My husband started courting me at 28 and wanted to marry much earlier. If you know marriage is for you I would agree marrying earlier than sooner is one of the best moves!!